हसलो म्हणजे सुखात आहे ऐसे नाही

हसलो म्हणजे दुखीः नव्हतो ऐसे नाही

हसलो म्हणजे फ़क्त स्वतःच्या फ़जितीवर

निर्लज्यागत दिधली होती स्वतःच टाळी

हसलो कारण शक्यच नव्हते दुसरे काही

डोळ्यामधे पाणी नव्हते ऐसे नाही

हसतो कारण तुच कधी होतीस म्हणाली

याहुन तव चेहर्‍याला काही शोभत नाही

हसतो कारण तुला विसरणे जितके अवघड

तितके काही गाल पसरणे अवघड नाही

हसतो कारण दुसर्‍यानांही बरे वाटते

हसतो कारण तुला सुद्धा ते खरे वाटते

हसलो म्हणजे फ़क्त डकवली फ़ुले कागदी

आतुन आलो होतो बहरुन ऐसे नाही

हसतो कारण जरी बत्तीशी कुरुप आहे

खाण्याची अन दाखवण्याची एकच आहे

हसतो कारण सत्याची मज भिती नाही

हसतो कारण हसण्यावाचुन सुटका नाही...

- Sandeep Khare

बेट

बेट 

बेट नाही ते सुंदर, नाही गोड पाण्याचा स्रोत

तुफान वादळातही नाही फिरकत कोणते जहाज  

पण नाही रुक्ष अगदीचहि

अंतरीय सौंदर्य तयाचे जाणती फक्त साधक

Offering Alms to Beggars

One day, I was traveling in a friend's car. I noticed something unusual, in the empty space below the driver's seat, there was a pack of around 20 something Parle-G biscuits. I thought that he might have kept them as a something to eat for long drives . But I asked him anyway. His reply was a simple and elegant solution to the problem we face many times. 

He told me that, whenever a beggar comes to him, he doesn't like to offer money because it's like practically encouraging them to not do any work and keep begging (and I'm sure every practical guy would think in the same way). And we feel really bad for their condition, they might be really in some condition due which they have to beg. But nobody can know for sure. He offers them these biscuits, problem solved! You don't need to be cold-hearted, or worse promote begging. 

By looking at this Quora Answer, I think many people do it. But from my personal experience, most people in my contact don't know this. They either feel too sympathetic and offer money, or they just try to ignore them (and if you've faced some situation, you know how awkward it gets). 

And this something that must be shared. Over and out! 

People at accident scenes

Place: Pune 
Time: Saturday night

My two friends and I were going for a dinner in Koregaon Park area, famous for it's richness, lifestyle, and small roads for its' huge traffic. My friend was driving the car.

We were going at decent speed. Just beside the divider, there was a small chip of stone lying around. Unfortunately, my friend couldn't see it and our car skidded on it, my friend lost her control over the car, and the car landed on the pile of divider rocks (which was there where the divider ended. And yes, in the middle of the road). Maybe divider work wasn't completed, maybe it was completed but constructor was too lazy to remove that pile of rocks. Who am I to blame anyone? :/

I was bit shocked and fuzzy. After getting hold of myself. I checked whether the ladies in the car were okay, they were. I got out of the car to analyze the situation. The car was supporting itself on it's both left wheels and pile of divider rocks (right side wheels in the air). Our car had blocked one of the two lanes in the direction which we were going towards. Because of this, traffic started getting jammed which invited the traffic cop who was doing his duty nearby. Rather than asking if everyone is okay, he quickly came to the point, how the accident happened? And can you move the car quickly out of the road so traffic continues? I was surprised and angry at the same time. But in India, you mind your language with Police officer (irrespective of whether you are right or wrong). 

Even after telling him that crane is on its way he told us to move the car aside quickly (and I really don't blame him for doing his duty, from his point of view it was a good call at that time #NoSarcasm). Few people had gathered around the scene and they helped use move the car by lifting those heavy rocks and finally getting the car on four wheels. Need to mention here that even the traffic cop helped us lifting the rocks. We cleared the road partially so traffic can continue in two lanes. 

After this was done, two policemen came to the scene (this must be familiar to you if you watch enough Bollywood movies :P ). They started the investigation, they took the driver's license of my friend and told us that they've to seize the vehicle. This was an indirect way of asking for the bribe. We were not sure if this was legal or not (considering no-one was injured and no public-private property was damaged, apart from our own car of course). They stopped one crane (which was happened to be going somewhere by the same road) and told us to move the car where it can be safely parked. That crane moved the car not more than 200meters and charged us 1000 bucks.

Point behind writing this post is that I met many types of people that day

1. People who don't think of other people's lives while doing their job
2. People who ignored 
3. People who instructed us on what to do
4. People who "actually" helped us
5. A cop who wanted to do his duty
6. Cops who wanted to take advantage of the situation
7. People who wanted to make some money.

I was really surprised that how people can see an accident as an opportunity to earn some money and show off their power. I think every accident story has these kinds of characters. I would like to see all people except the type 4 disappear from the earth some day. 

Few shayaris

Today I came across a post on Facebook. And all the shayaris it had, touched my heart. And I couldn't resist sharing them. I don't know who the shayar is (probably he is Piyush Mishra) 

सोचता हू कि धोखे से जहर दे दु | 
सभी ख्वाहीशोन्को दावतपे बुला के || 

रातोंको चलती रहति ही है mobile पे उंगलिया | 
सीनेपे किताब रखके सोये काफी वक़्त हो गया || 

सुकून मिलता है दो लफ्ज़ कागज़ पे उतार कर |
चीख भी लेता हु और आवाज भी नहीं आती || 

हर इंसान बिकता है इस दुनिया मे |
कितना महंगा या सस्ता ये उसकी मजबूरियाँ तय करती है  || 

आज मैंने फिर से जज़बात भेजें | 
तुमने फिर अल्फ़ाज ही समझें  || 

ख्वाहिशोंको जेब में रखकर निकला कीजिये जनाब | 
खर्चा बहोत होता है, मन्ज़िलोंको पाने में  || 

ज़िन्दगी का फलसफा भी कितना अज़ीब है | 
शामे कटती नहीं और साल गुजरते जाते है ||  

ना जाने कब खर्च हो गये, पता ही न चला, वो लम्हे | 
जो छुपा कर रखें थे जीनेके लिए  ||

ये उम्र कुछ कहा  मैंने, शायद तूने सुना नहीं | 
तू छीन सकती है बचपन मेरा, पर बचपना नहीं  || 

क्या फायदा आधी रात को उठनेसे | 
जब सपने भी wrong number जैसे हो || 

वो काम भला क्या काम हुआ जो मज़ा न दे whiskey का | 
और वो इश्क़ भला क्या इश्क़ हुआ जिसमे ना मौका सिसकी का | 

कितने दिल थे जो गये पथ्थर | 
कितने पथ्थर थे जो सनम ठहरे || 

इक इतवार ही है, जो रिश्तोंको संभालता है | 
बाकी दिन किश्तोंको संभालने में खर्च हो जाते है || 

अजीब दस्तूर है मोहब्बत का |  
रूठ कोई जाता है, टूट कोई जाता है  || 

कुर्सी है कोई जनाज़ा तो नहीं | 
कुछ कर  नहीं सकते तो उतर क्यों नहीं जाते || 

Saazish-e-kaynaat

Do you ever observe that some day you are getting lots of calls, messages from your lots of friends. Everybody is being nice with you, helping you out, making you laugh, behaving like they truly care about you and making you feel like the king of the world. 

On the other hand, some other day, people are not behaving nicely with you. Talking rudely with you. Not even replying to your messages even after reading them (thanks to WhatsApp ;) ). Making you depressed, sad. Making you feel alone.

Just to clear something, it's not about people's individual behavior but the same behavior across multiple people who are not related at all. Why people simultaneously behave nice or bad with you :/. There has to be some good reason behind that. Or is it not at all related with people but with myself? Maybe my mood becomes my eye of perceiving the world. That will surely explain few things like the behaviour of people towards me. They are behaving usually but I'm perceiving them differently according to my mood; good or bad. 

But this won't explain why, on some day, people's unusual number of calls and messages (statistically abnormally :P). I can't figure out this scientifically. Maybe there are some things which can't be explained (or it's just some coincidence and I'm thinking way too much about it :D ). I call this "Saazish-e-kaynaat" :B .

Do you ever observe this??

Put yourself in their shoes or try to be a human!

I recently had the privilege(?) to visit the police station (:/). Not that I'm a criminal type, I went for my passport verification. Just to make it clear I'm just a normal type of guy who is afraid to face the police (despite what they say "police are your friends").

I was waiting there in Police station for the police inspector (No comments! :/). Another girl with her mother was waiting there as well. The girl was well educated as she was MS aspirant (in U.S. of course) & mom was educated too, as she was calling herself ma'am on the phone (don't ask me why nor do I know).

Believe me, waiting in the police station can be a nightmare, not that it is waiting but you've to listen to the problems what people face (and you feel sad if you have a heart). There was another girl, who was pregnant, and her mother. They had a complaint against her father. Unfortunately, her father used to beat her (despite her being pregnant) and her mother. She was telling the inspector how he beats them, mentally tortures them. Not that this was new to me, domestic violence was all around my neighbourhood (mostly because of drinking habits of husbands and more because of male ego), but it still makes me (and it should) feel pity for people who suffer because of it, those wives and children.

During this, I happen to notice the girl and her mother who had come for police verification. And to my surprise, they were looking at that them and were laughing at them. I was literally furious at them. How can you laugh at other people's problems? How can you? Everybody have their own domestic problems to cry for. I'm sure that so called educated girl and her mother had as well. Maybe her husband never beat her (he should :P) mostly because educated people try to be sophisticated (though it doesn't make them sophisticated). If you can't have sympathy for others just try not to laugh at them at least. I gave them disgusting look (that's what I could do). I think her mother felt a little bit of shame and stopped laughing and grinning. But that was never going to change their thinking.

Some people are just happier when others are in problem. And that confirms we are evolved from animals and few of them forgot to evolve as humans. :(